Choosing the Gown That's Right for You

Choosing your wedding gown can be one of the most memorable highlights of your life. It can also be one of the most emotionally exhausting ordeals you've ever endured.

Browsing through bridal magazines can almost be a mistake. You see, falling in love with the gown in a full-page ad can spell disaster, for the general rule is: The larger the ad, the larger the price tag. So what can you do?

First, establish your budget. This makes your shopping much easier. Second, ask friends and family for their recommendations of bridal shops. You will want to visit only the best. And this doesn't necessarily mean the ones who charge the most. This means the ones who have been around awhile. Out of my file of wedding stories comes to mind one in which a bride I worked with found out at the last minute that her boutique went out of business. Just like that! No phone call. No refund. And no dress. She had to rent one. If you have the willpower, visit a few shops without trying anything on. This is the time to be critical. Browse through the dresses in your price range and evaluate the service help. Are they helpful or pushy? Down-to-earth or "snooty"? You must like the shop and its employees. After all, you're going to be together a very long time!

Narrow down the field and return to the shop or shops you liked best for an afternoon or evening of "fun-filled" fittings. Just remember to:

• Wear or bring heels much like you will wear at your wedding.
• Wear a strapless bra if you are interested in trying on gowns with mesh or fine lace around the upper chest and shoulders.
• Sweep up your hair in a simple knot with tendrils on the side, if you think you'll want to have your hair up on your wedding day. This will help you envision the total effect.
• Try not to wear too much makeup, especially base foundation. No matter how careful you are, it can easily smear on the dress.
• Avoid wearing dangling earrings or bracelets that can snag on the delicate material of the gowns.

Try on only dresses that are priced within your budget. It is useless to disappoint yourself. And try on as many different styles as possible. You can't always judge a gown by its appearance on a hanger. When I got married, I went to the boutique with one definite style in mind. The salesperson—who reminded me of a wonderful Italian grandmother — did not disagree with me. She simply brought me some "other" choices as well. No hype. No push. But she had a "favorite" in that bunch. Well, I ended up with that favorite. And it cost me less than what I intended to spend!

Sample gowns are generally made in sizes 8, 10, and 12. So, if you just happen to be out of the "norm," make sure the sales representative assists, by displaying the gown on you to its best advantage. And for that matter, if you are a perfect size 8, 10, or 12, you just might want to check out the sample gowns on sale. (That's where I got mine!) The deals are fabulous! True, the dresses are most often last year's models. But who, besides you, is going to know that? Don't worry about any makeup stains or wrinkles. The boutique will remove these, and usually at no extra charge. You may get a designer wedding gown for a fraction of the cost!

You'll know the gown of your dreams the very moment you try it on. Hopefully, your mother and/or maid or matron of honor is with you and has brought a camera!

When you have made your choice, listen carefully to all policies. Know exactly what you are paying for. Will this particular gown require additional articles of clothing, such as full-hoop petticoats or a special brassiere? Does the style of dress require a very formal veil? (These things will strongly affect your budget!) Are alterations included? If not, what are the fees? If hourly rates are being quoted, don't be afraid to ask for the estimated number of hours involved in completing your gown. What kind of deposit is required? Whenever possible, use your credit card. If the boutique does not come through for you as promised, you may have some recourse through your credit card company.

Now if your budget isn't quite up to "boutique," there are other sources available for bridal gowns, as well. You can rent. (Check your Yellow Pages.) You can read through your local want ads for used or never-worn bridal attire. And, if your mother preserved her gown, you can restore and/or alter hers to fit you. Don't be afraid of saying the style doesn't suit you. Just say it nicely.

You also needn't wear traditional white. In Victorian-style Christmas weddings, often the bride will be in emerald green and the bridesmaids in lush red velvets (or vice versa). I've even seen weddings with the bride in blue, which is true to 18th-century tradition. The choice is yours. And the sky's the limit!

Okay, it's time to be brutally honest with yourself. Are you really planning to lose weight before your wedding? If so, inform your salesperson or seamstress. (They're used to hearing it, believe me.) Then lose that weight before your first fitting, and do your best to maintain your desired weight. The problems are all too obvious when you gain or lose more than a few pounds before your final fitting.

Losing weight on your own? That's fine when you have about ten pounds to lose. Just figure on a pound a week, and safely schedule your first fitting around that if time allows.
Want to lose more? Seek out a professional weight control service. They will set up a program for you that gets you where you want to be in a reasonable amount of time. The money is well worth it.

Never, never starve yourself. It doesn't teach you any good habits, and often destroys your health if you do too much of it. And above all, please don't feel under pressure to be someone you're not! After all, your fiance proposed to you the way you are. The need to trim off a few pounds is normal. But to carve yourself down from a size 12 to a 3 is ridiculous!

The Tuxedo: Blend In or Stick Out

Today's tuxedos do a lot more than merely provide a neutral background to show off the bride's gown. Men are no longer content to sacrifice choice, and area tuxedo shops are responding by carrying different lines of suits in various elegant styles. Men want to look their best on this big day too, and the more options available to them, the better opportunity they have to sweep you off your feet.

The most popular choice among 08's grooms is still the classic black tux, due to its elegant overtones. However, there is a lot of variety within today's black tuxedos that make them anything but ordinary. Your groom has to choose between dinner jackets and tails, notched lapels and shawl collars, different pocket styles, jackets with or without vents, and many other details. These decisions are by no means minor, and each detail makes an important statement.

Another vital decision regards color. Pattern has become the staple of the tuxedo industry, for it combines many colors in a vest or cummerbund to match a variety of bridesmaids' dresses. The colors that these dresses come in are so varied that it would be practically impossible and definitely not cost-effective for tuxedo shops to develop ties, cummerbunds, and vests that coordinate perfectly with all of these colors. Instead, patterns have been developed which can be matched with a variety of dress colors. Patterns also provide grooms with an additional opportunity to express their individuality in making a loud or soft statement.

While most men are still wearing the traditional white wing collar shirts, pants are popular in pegged, pleated, and plain front styles. The various types of pants are chosen to complement the groomsmen's ages and tastes.

Many fathers and older groomsmen dislike the pegged styles preferred by many of their younger counterparts. To combat this problem, grooms are encouraged to forego the assumption that all groomsmen's pants should match, and instead allow their attendants to choose whichever style they are more comfortable with.

Shop around for prices, styles, and friendly, personal service. Tuxedo shops often carry different lines of tuxedos, and offer various "deals." Investigate each of these deals, and find out what exactly is included in the prices. A complete tuxedo ensemble should include a jacket, shirt, studs and cufflinks, bow tie or ascot, pants, a vest or cummerbund, and formal dress shoes. Every detail is important, so make sure each is included in your price.

The choice between a cummerbund and vest is a reflection of the groom's style. Cummerbunds are traditional favorites, while vests add a little 1990's sophistication to your groom.

Once the groom's ensemble has been selected, the two of you will need to decide what the groomsmen will wear. The groom should be easily distinguishable from his attendants in attire, so choose suits for them that complement, but do not mimic, his. One way to accomplish this is for the groom to wear tails, with the groomsmen in regular hip-length dinner jackets. Another way to distinguish the groom from the groomsmen would be for him to wear a vest with a pattern in a certain color, while his attendants wear the same patterned vest in a different color. Even the best man must match the other groomsmen. Only the ringbearer is allowed to wear the same tuxedo ensemble as the groom.

The fathers can be distinguished from the other attendants by matching their ties and vests or cummerbunds to their tuxedos instead of the bridesmaids' dresses.

The best idea, as with all other wedding arrangements, is to plan early. Register with a tuxedo shop as soon as possible, and reserve tuxedo numbers and styles at least three months before the wedding.

Don't neglect to check in to make sure that your order was placed, especially if you plan to marry in the spring/summer season. Not only is this the time for the most weddings to take place, but it is also high school prom season, and therefore an especially busy time for tuxedo shops.

About two to three weeks before your wedding, bring in the entire male party for measurements. If an attendant is out of town, make sure a measurement card is filled out correctly so that the shop can order a fitting tuxedo.

Have the tuxedos ready for pickup no less than two days before the wedding. Insist that all attendants try on their tuxes before they leave the shop to avoid last minute surprises.

Even choosing a tuxedo is no longer a simple detail, with all of these decisions to be made. Take advantage of the myriad of possibilities that allow your groom to express his own style and look so handsome at the same time!

Bridal Gowns: Silhouettes, Trains, Sleeves, Necklines, Fabrics

It's always a good idea to learn the language of the foreign country you're traveling to. Think of bridal salons as a foreign country, because they have a language of their very own. By communicating with the correct terms, you will be able to better convey the characteristics of your dream wedding gown.

Silhouettes

Silhouette simply means the shape of the gown. In one or two instances, it can also mean the structure of the gown.

Ball Gown

Typical Cinderella style gown. Fitted bodice and waist with a full skirt.

Empire

Fitted bodice to just below the bustline, with skirt falling from that point.

A-Line

Semi-fitted with skirt that is wider at the hem.

Sheath

Semi-fitted gown with straight, narrow skirt.

Mermaid

Fitted or semi-fitted with narrow skirt that fans out starting at the knees

Princess/Princess A-Line

Fitted gown that is similar to the sheath silhouette. The distinguishing feature of a princess gown is the two extra seams going from the bodice to the hem. With this structure, a slit is easily incorporated intothe design for walking. An A-line silhouette can also be acheived from the princess structure.


Lengths

Length decribes length the skirt. The formality of the wedding usually dictates the gown's length.

Floor

Long gown that just skims the floor. Best with a full skirt. Worn in formal weddings.

Ankle

Long gown that reaches the ankle, with shoes exposed. Best with straight or narrow skirts. Worn in formal weddings.

Ballerina/Tea

Skirt that reaches mid-calf. Usually for informal weddings or for bridesmaids gowns.

Steet

Skirt that reaches the knee. Worn in day and informal weddings.

Mini

Skirt that ends one to two inches above the knee. Worn in day and informal weddings.

Micro-Mini

Skirt that ends two inches or more above the knee. This length is popular with the young and trendy. Worn in day and informal weddings.

Trains

Trains come in different lengths and can be styled to be convertable for ease of movement after the ceremony. They are usually worn only in formal to semi-formal weddings. As with gowns, the length of the train is also dictated by the formality of the wedding.

Train Lengths

Cathedral

Remember Princess Di's train? That was the ultimate cathedral train. A cathedral train trails the bride by 2 yards or more in length. It is worn in only the most formal of weddings.

Chapel

Extends up to 2 yards from the gown. Also worn in formal weddings.

Court

Trails the bride by approximately 1 yard. Worn in semi-formal weddings.

Sweep

Trails the bride by 1/2 yard. Worn in semi-formal wedding.

Floor

This train length just skims the floor. It has become one of the more common length because of the ease of movement and practicality. Worn in semi-formal wedding.


Train Styles

Attached

Train simply extends the back of the skirt by the desired length. It is usually converted after the ceremony by gathering the train into a bustle. Eyes and hooks, or snaps are used for the conversion.

Detached

Train usually extends from the back of the waist. Eyes and hooks, or snaps are used to attach the train to the gown. Besides being ornamental, bows or fabric flowers are used to cover the snaps, or eyes and hooks. The train is usually removed after the ceremony.

Capelet

This style of train extends from the shoulders.

Watteau

Train usually extends from the gown's back yoke, just below the shoulder blades.

Necklines

This is one of the most important features of a gown. It provides a frame for the bride's face, as well as complements the accessories and jewelry she will be adorned with.

Bateau
This is a high straight neckline, from shoulder to shoulder.

Halter

A neckline on a backless or sleeveless gown that wraps around the neck.

Jewel

A gently rounded neckline that encircles the neck and is higher than the round neckline.

Portrait

A neckline that incorporates off-the-shoulder sleeves.

Round

A simple low rounded neckline.

Square

A neckline using only straight lines across the bust and to shoulders.

Sweetheart

A delicately shaped neckline that curves around and dip at the center of the bust line.

Sleeves

Cap

These are tiny sleeves that just covers the top of the shoulders.

Leg O' Mutton

These sleeves that are puffed at the shoulders and narrow at the wrists.

Puffed

Short sleeves with gathers to achieve fullness.

Dropped/Off Shoulder

Short or long leeves that start below the top of shoulders. The portrait neckline is a version of dropped sleeves.

Petal
Shaped sleeves that resemble flower petals. Usually short, and wrap around the arm.

Fitted

Traditional long fitted sleeves with a row of buttons at back of forearm.

Fabrics

The fabric plays an important part in your wedding gown. The weight, color, drapability and appearance of the fabric has to complement the design of the gown. The fabric also determines the cost of the gown. Natural fabrics, such as silks and cottons, usually command a higher cost.

Chiffon

This fluid, sheer, and transparent fabric is a favorite of bridal designers. Can be self hemmed or finished with ribbons. Mostly used as an overlay for heavier fabric. Fibers range from silk, rayon to polyester. Silk is the ideal choice for bridal gowns, but is very expensive. Rayon is the best alternative.

China Silk

A lightweight fabric with slightly irregular weave. Used for linings. Despite the name, today's china silk are commonly made from rayon or polyester.

Crepe Back Satin

A lightweight fabric with a smooth satin face and crepe weave backing.

Crepe de Chine

Similar to crepe back satin, but much softer to the touch and higher luster. Silk or rayon fibers are commonly used.

Doupion

Silk fabric with a irregular weave and has tiny nubs showing.

Faille

A low luster, soft fabric with a visible rib weave. Silk or rayon fibers are commonly used.

Illusion

A fine netting of tiny hexagonal mesh. Commonly used for construction of sleeves and upper bodice area of wedding gowns.

Lame

A fluid fabric made of metallic threads.

Moire

A stiff fabric with watermark effect.

Organza

A fabric similar to chiffon, but is much stiffer and has a low shine. Usually used for full skirts or as under support to achieve a full skirt silhouette.

Satin

A fabric with shiny smooth face and crepe back. Usually medium to heavy weight.

Peau de Soie

A soft satin faced fabric with less shine than the satin fabric, and a slightly visible grian.

Shantung

A medium to heavy weight raw silk fabric with nubs visible thorughout the fabric. Silk shantung is popular for wedding gowns. Usually comes in off white color.

Taffeta

A heavy and stiff fabric, most commonly seen with watermark effect.

Faille Taffeta

Combination of the taffeta weight and stiffness with the rib weave of the faille fabric.

Tulle

A stiff netting used for wedding veils and skirts of gowns.

Velvet

A heavy weight fabric with plush pile. Perfect for elegant winter weddings. Comes in silk, rayon and polyester.

Panne Velvet

A fabric derived from velvet. The pile is press flat to create a high shine. It is a soft and fluid fabric.

Men’s Formal Wear

In most weddings, the groom, best man, ushers, and even fathers rent their formal wear. A wide selection is available so it’s best to look in a few shops before making a final decision. If possible, rent everything from the same shop and, if not, at least get the same type of suit. There are many choices available: single or double-breasted jackets with notch, peak, or shawl lapels; double inverted pleated or merely pleated trousers with or without a fabric strip running down the side. Select something to fit your formality and the season, and one that will blend nicely with the other colors. Most of the originality and color will come from the myriad choices of cummerbunds, ties, vests, and shirts that are available. They should coordinate with or complement the bridesmaids’ colors.

Consider having the groom’s father in the same outfit as the others. This looks better for pictures and in receiving line. The bride’s father should always be dressed in accordance with the groom and the attendants.

Men’s Semi-formal Wear

For a great look at a less formal wedding, put the groom attendants in suits and ties. For evening or winter, generally navy, black or dark gray is worn. A light white or ivory suit is worn for summer afternoons. If the groom’s suit is white or ivory, it should match the bride’s dress. If she wears ivory, then he should not wear stark white.

With many wonderful things to select from, remember to keep the overall look in mind. This goes without saying: dark shoes and socks with dark suits, and light shoes and sock with light ones.

Men’s Wear Tips

Shop for and reserve your formal wear from size to eight months in advance, in order to ensure availability, especially if you’re getting married in the more popular months.

Pick up the tuxes the day before the wedding so that if there’s a fit problem, there will be time to fix it.

Have all the men try on their whole outfit when they pick it up so they can check for potential fit problems and have them fixed in time

Most men will want to wear their own dress shoes (newly polished) for the highest degree of comfort.

Budget Wedding: Shopping for a Bridal Gown

• Consider wearing a bridesmaid’s dress in white for an informal wedding.
  
  
• Order bridesmaids dresses from ready-to-wear designers. There may be little or no savings, but your bridesmaids will have a dress they are more inclined to wear again.
  
  
• Rent a gown. Many stores rent both dressy formal wear and bridal gowns; others just specialize in bridal attire. Check the yellow pages in your area or in a large city nearby.
  
  
• Check out consignment shops and newspapers. Sometimes weddings are canceled, or newly married brides are looking to recoup some of the money they just spent. The gown may need alterations and cleaning, so figure that into the cost and take the time to inspect the dress carefully. Start looking months in advance; you need to allow yourself plenty of time to order a gown if you don’t find one using these sources.
  
  
• Check with bridal salons in your area to see if they have gowns that have never been picked up. Sometimes a bride will put a deposit on a gown, the wedding is canceled, and she never returns to pick it up. The salon may be willing to sell the gown for the 50 percent balance that’s owed, since they’ve already collected a 50 percent deposit from the first bride.
  
  
• Wear the gown that your mother, sister, or friend wore at their wedding. This is not only cost saving, but it also adds a touch of sentiment to the ceremony.
  
  
• Ask about package discounts. Some salons may offer a discount on your gown if you purchase all the bridesmaid’s dresses from them. Although this is often negotiable, it never hurts to ask!
  
  
• Add your own touch. Buy a simple, inexpensive gown from a salon, bead your own lace appliqués, and add them to the gown in order to give it a more elaborate look. Check local fabric stores for prices and availability of lace before taking this route.
  br>· Save on shoes. Buy shoes that can be dyed another color and worn again, or borrow shoes from a friend.
  
  
• Order the gown in a less expensive fabric. If the dress style you like is out of your price range, see if the dress can be made in a less expensive fabric.
  
  
• Avoid expensive design changed. Find a gown that has the design elements you want, and avoid expensive changes, such as changing the train length or style of sleeve.
  
  
• Minimize alterations. Keep alterations to a minimum; order the closest size, to your largest measurement, from the manufacturer’s size chart (each measurement’s size chart caries).
  

Important Bridal Gown Shipping Tips

• Confirm the store’s refund, cancellation, and return policies before you walk out with a gown or plunk down your non-refundable 50 percent deposit.
  
• Find out if there are any hidden shipping costs.
  
  
• Don’t buy the first time out. At least sleep on it.
  
  
• Be certain you are comfortable in the dress, both emotionally and physically. Move around, mimic poses you will be striking on your wedding day, dancing with you arms up, bending over, sitting down, etc. Be certain the gown affords you the necessary range of motion. Equally important, make sure you feel like YOU in the dress (an especially dressed up romantic you to be sure). If you don’t feel you belong in the dress, then you don’t. Listen to you intuition.
  
  
• Also, listen to experienced and knowledgeable salespeople. Remember, this is probably your first time shopping for a wedding dress, and they have most likely helped hundreds of brides choose their perfect dress. Let them put their years of experience to work for you.
  
  
• Have the style number, dress size, and color ordered written on the receipt, along with the deposit amount and promised delivery date.
  
  
• A couple of weeks after the gown is ordered, call to verify that the order has been placed with the manufacturer, and confirm a delivery date.
  
  
• Stay in touch with the salon periodically. Some salons have been known to close their doors after taking deposits from brides. They may not have ordered the dress or made any arrangements for the bride to take delivery of her gown. Who needs a last minute surprise like that!?
  
  
• When ordering a gown, be sure you are measured properly with a cloth tape, then ask to see the manufacturer’s size charts and order the size according to your largest measurement. This will help minimize costly, unnecessary alterations. Remember, it’s better to order the dress a little larger than too small. And don’t order a dress one or two sizes smaller than you normally wear based on the idea that you’’ lose twenty pounds. If you don’t lose it, you’re in real trouble.
  
  
• Pay the smallest deposit you can, and put your deposit on a credit card. If you have the problem, you can dispute the charges, and subsequently, often have the disputed charges taken off your bill.
  
  
• Your contract or receipt should include a cancellation clause, stating that the deposit will be refunded if the gown ordered doesn’t arrive in good condition by the desired date.
  

Budget Wedding: Discount Bridal Gown Shopping

Remember that episode of FRIENDS where Monica is shopping for her bridal gown? Chaos and pandemonium rule the discount bridal sale, and some of the characters even get into a fist fight!

Discount bridal sales take place periodically at bridal boutiques and large department stores. These sales can really save you money on your dream gown. However, with so many distressed brides all trying to find the perfect dress, discount sales can also get quite chaotic and stressful. For a relatively stress-free experience, try these tips on for size:

• Do your research before you hit the sale. Don't make the bridal sale your first shopping trip, or you'll feel incredibly overwhelmed and out of place as other brides whiz by you! It's a good idea to browse bridal stores and catalogues before the day of the sale. Also, since many of these sales contain fashions from seasons past, it may be useful to check out last year's styles.
  
  
  
• Have an idea of what you want. Sure, the perfect dress may end up finding you, but be sure you know approximately what characteristics you prefer in a gown (i.e. length, color, sleeve length, cleavage style, etc.) That way, you won't waste your time on dresses that you surely would not wear on your big day---there is no sense in looking at long-sleeved ivory gowns if what you want is a sleeveless white dress!
  
  
  
• Have some sort of a "game plan." Will you look at style first, then size? Will you go for the color, then the type of skirt it has? Whatever your strategy, be sure to memorize it and use it during your shopping trip. When things get hectic, it's not the best idea to run around frantically---even if everyone else around you seems to be doing just that. By keeping to a clear game plan at all times, you'll have a much better chance of ending up with the right dresses in the fitting room.
  
  
  
• Speaking of the fitting room, be sure to browse around and have a couple of different gowns with you before you try anything on. You may think you have fallen in love with The One Gown, but it may look entirely wrong once you try it on. Since most of these sales have incredibly long lines for trying on clothes, be sure you have a few options so you don't spend all your time in line.
  
  
  
• Don't fall into the pandemonium. Make sure you stay calm, even if you are being bombarded by Bridezillas. You may feel tempted to push that woman who just stepped on your foot while snagging the dress you wanted, but please don't. By keeping your cool, you will make better decisions and have a much greater chance of ending up with the gown you love. And just think, you'll surely have plenty of Bridezilla stories to tell your bridesmaids at your next get-together!
  
  
  
• Last but not least: have fun! Put things into perspective when you get stressed out. When things get out of control, bear in mind that the reason you are there is to find your dream dress, which you will be wearing when you marry your dream man!
  

Bridal Gown Glossary of Terms

Ok, I’ll admit it. I went out looking at wedding dresses the day AFTER I got engaged. I know there are more of you out there… come on. It was an overwhelming experience for me. Before I got 3 feet in the door at most shops, I was approached by a bridal consultant asking me such questions as, “What is your wedding date?” and “What style do you have in mind?” and “How many bridesmaids are you having?” and so on.

As months passed, I slowly became able to answer those questions, but now came new ones. “What are you looking for, A-lines? Bone bodices? Halter-top? Mermaid?” I started feeling over whelmed again. Since then, I’ve researched, and slowly kept a notebook of bridal terms and meanings to help me through it all. These seem to be the most commonly used; as there are more I’m sure. I hope it helps you, as much as it’s helped me.


A-line gown – Form fitting bodices that flares out from the waistline to a full skirt. These gowns have a seamless waist.

Back drape – A length of material attached either at the shoulder or the waist that flows over the back to floor length. In some cases can be removable.

Ball gown – Very full skirt that begins at the waist and continues to a formal length.

Ballerina neckline – A low neckline that usually occurs with strapless or spaghetti strapped dresses.

Basque waist/V-waist – Dropped waist starting at or just below the waistline, and dips in the center creating a “V” shape.

Bateau neck/boat neck – A high, wide, straight neckline that runs straight across the front and back, meeting at the shoulders. It is the same depth in the front and back.

Cap sleeve – A small short sleeve, which sits on the shoulder, either forming a stiff cap or falling on to the arm. Provides minimal coverage.

Cathedral train/Monarch train – A cascading train extending six to eight feet behind the gown.

Chapel train – (most popular) flows from three to four feet behind gown.

Column Skirt/straight skirt – Straight-line skirt with no flare or fullness at the hem or waistline.

Corset top/boned bodice – Form fitting, usually strapless bodice with boning and either laces or snap closures, worn as an undergarment in the past, now popular as outer-garment.

Crinoline – AKA Petticoats, stiffened slip worn under the dress to give the skirt height or “poof”. Most common is found in 2 styles. A-line and Full. A-line is 2 layers, Full is 3.

Diamond neck – Diamond shaped cutout that fastens at the front or back neckline.

Dropped shoulders – Style that the shoulder or sleeve is falling off the shoulder.

Empire bodice – Bodice that ends just below the bust.

Empire waist – Waistline begins just below the bust.

Fishtail train – Fitted around the hips and flares out from the knee to the hemline.

Fitted point sleeve – Long, narrow sleeve that tapers to a point, which rests against the back of the hand.

Gauntlets – Dress gloves extending above the wrist.

Halter-top – Sleeveless bodice with a high choke or wrap neck that may be backless.

Keyhole neck – tear shaped or round cutout that fastens at the front of back neckline.

Mermaid – Skirt that hugs body until it reaches the knees then ends in dramatic flare.

Sheaths – Usually have straight or close fitting skirts, accompanied by a form-fitting bodice. Skirt is often ankle length and sometimes has a slit in either the front, side, or back to make walking easier.

Spaghetti strap – thin tubular strap that attaches to the bodice

Square neck – an open neckline shaped in the form of a half square.

Sweep train – The shortest train, barely sweeping the floor.

Sweetheart neck – Neckline shaped like the top half of a heart

Tank top – Short, sleeveless top with wide armholes.

Tulle skirt/Bouffant gown – A sheer, puffed-out skirt often made of stiffened silk, rayon, or nylon net.

V-neck/V-back – An open neck/back coming to a “V” shape midway down the bodice.

Shopping for Your Wedding Gown

Shopping for the perfect wedding gown can be a challenge. With thousands of dresses available in the United States, finding the dress that best suits you can be quite difficult. This article provides some helpful hints for finding “your” dress.

First of all, start looking through bridal magazines for styles or designers that you like. Tear out the pages and take them with you when you go shopping -- these will help the sales staff to pull similar dresses for you to try on. Keep in mind that if the staff brings out a dress for you to try on that you don’t think you’ll like, try it on anyway -- many a bride has bought a dress that she didn’t like on the hanger, but loved wearing.

It’s a good idea to start dress shopping early -- up to a year before your wedding date if possible. Call the gown stores in advance to set up an appointment with a sales person. Bring the undergarments you plan to wear with your dress to the shop, as well as shoes. If you don’t have your shoes picked out yet, bring dress shoes with a heel about the same height as you think you will wear on your wedding day. At the shops, you will be trying on samples of wedding dresses that can range from size 6-18 (gowns run 1-2 sizes larger than normal dress sizes). Remember that the dress you order may vary slightly from the sample you see in the store; for example, if the manufacturing company runs out of one kind of lace, it may substitute a similar one.

If you can, shop on off-peak days and times. This will provide more one-on-one attention from your salesperson and a more relaxed shopping experience. Weekdays are usually less busy than weekends, and fall and winter are less hectic seasons than spring and summer, when the majority of brides are trying on, ordering, and altering their gowns.

Who you bring with you when you try on dresses is important. Bring one or two friends whose opinion you trust, but no more than three people. You might also want to bring a camera, so that you can take pictures of each dress you try on and then be able to compare the photos side-by-side at home. The photos might also be fun to look back on after your wedding, when you show your fiance which dresses you didn’t choose. Be sure to ask your salesperson if taking photos is okay -- some stores have a policy against it.

When it comes time to order your dress, it can take some designers from 4-8 months to make your dress and ship it to the store, especially if it is a foreign-based company. When the dress arrives, you will come back to the shop for 2-3 “fittings,” where you try on the dress after alterations have been done to make sure it fits properly. After your final fitting, you will take your dress with you. Be sure to bring a white sheet or two to place in your car to keep your dress clean. When you get it home, hang up your dress as high as you can so that, if you have a train it doesn’t get dirty on the floor.

Happy shopping!

Styles and Suggestions for Plus-Size Brides

Flipping through your favorite bridal magazine, you may be thinking to yourself, 'Do only size-2 women get married?' The styles shown and the models wearing them tend to be geared toward smaller women, it's true. But don't let that get you down! There is a gown out there to suit every figure and so many options for beautiful plus-size brides!


Long sleeves are a perfect choice for a bride who feels self-conscious about her arms. Be sure to choose a dress with sleeves that are sleek and fitted (such as lace or illusion) rather than puffy sleeves, which will add bulk. Another option is a wrap, which you can drape over your arms during the ceremony or throughout the reception.


Look for A-line silhouettes! These gowns will be fitted through the shoulders and bodice, flowing away from the waist to resemble the letter 'A'. This is a universally flattering shape and a great choice for the plus-sized bride!


Another silhouette you may find flattering is the empire waist. This waistline begins just below the bustline and is a great way to cover a tummy. Combined with an A-line skirt, this is one of the most popular options for plus-sized women.


Got great curves? Show them off with a great neckline! Open necklines such as scoop, keyhole, or V-necks are a perfect way to draw attention to your full bustline and away from problem areas.


The fabric you choose for your gown is also important. Choose lightweight fabrics like chiffon, lighter satins, and silk chantung, which will graze your figure beautifully stay away from heavy satins, crepe and velvet, which will cling to your body and emphasize any trouble spots. Matte fabrics are also a more slimming choice than those that are shiny.


Dresses without a lot of decoration tend to be the most flattering to a plus-sized figure. Too much lace or sequin detail add the illusion of extra pounds while more simple designs leave a bride looking lean. Save the sparkle for your accessories and you will bring attention to your (radiant!) face - try a sparky headpiece or drop earrings, or a glittery necklace.


Don't be alarmed if your dream gown costs just a little more because you are plus-sized. Designers generally charge extra due to the additional material being used, but the charge is generally reasonable - between $50 to $150, depending on the designer.


And speaking of designers, don't forget to pay special attention to those designers that pay special attention to you! Here is a list of bridal gown designers offering plus sizes: Alfred Angelo, Bonny MT, Diamond Collection, Emme Bridal, Forever Yours, Jim Hjelm, Jasmine, Jessica McClintock, Loralie, Mon Cheri, Mori Lee, Sweetheart, and Venus. Another great choice is David¡¦s Bridal, which is known for catering to the plus-size bride.

Tell Me About Fittings!

Fittings? Of course you have LOTS of questions! Well here are some tips and information for you BEFORE you even call for your first appointment.

1) After I buy the dress, when should I make a fitting appointment?

You will want to choose a time period fairly close to the wedding in case there are weight gain/loss issues that might come up. Typically, a salon or home seamstress wants to see you for the first fitting approximately 6-8 weeks before the wedding. If they are a high volume shop and you are marrying in a busy time such as Spring (Prom/Easter/1st Communion/Graduation), they may suggest that you "get on the books" sooner so they can handle the volume and you are fitted in a timely manner.


2) How many fittings will I have?

Typically, there are two fittings, occasionally, three if the work was not to your satisfaction or new issues arise such as a pregnancy or significant weight change or heel height change. The second fit is most often scheduled 3-4 weeks prior to the wedding.


3) Am I supposed to bring someone with me?

You certainly don't have to, but many brides like to have these moments shared with their MOH, their Mom, etc., and it does help to have someone learn how to work your bustle when it is created and to give you moral support if you are less than happy with how you look at that first fit.


4) What about picture taking during the fitting?

AFTER you have purchased the dress, the majority of salons will welcome a camera being brought to the fitting area. This si another good reason to bring someone with you-to capture those moments when you are being "pinned up".


5) Am I supposed to bring anything with me for the fittings?

YES!!! Be sure to purchase these items BEFORE your fitting. It is vitally important that you are fitted in everything you plan to wear with the dress (minus veil and jewelry) for the fittings. The shoes you plan to wear must be worn to check for hem length and also for bustle height. The bridal slip is also important because the hemline is affected by the "lift" that a slip gives the gown. The bra is equally important because the bodice is the most crucial fit of all-it must be a correct fit and whether you choose to go with sewn-in cups, a corset, a strapless or long line bra, each one will cause the bodice to fit differently, so make sure you bring with you whatever undergarments you want to try with the dress.


6) Should I eat before my fitting?

Yes, eat a SMALL meal... the fitting can take some time and you don't want to feel lightheaded due to lack of food. Don't over indulge or you will fit a lot more snugly in your gown than you planned and can get uncomfortable.


7) How long will I have to stand there for my fitting?

Your first fitting will take the longest amount of time. Approximately one hour should be allowed for a gown. It can be a bit less if you need only minor alterations and it can be more if you have a full tulle gown with many layers that need to be pinned up for hemming or if you have alot of reconstructive work needed. You will want to consider when you choose your heel height-that you will be standing for a peiod of time and may be uncomfortable. One tip is to keep your knees bent and occasionally shift your weight to keep good circulation going. You can tell your bridesmaids to expect approximately a half hour depending on what alterations they need.


8) Anything else I show know before I go?

Yes! Go with a happy attitude and try not to be too stresses about how it go... your seamstress is there to help you feel the prettiest you can feel and it can cause some communication problems or personality clashes if the bride is weary of what to expect, how things will be done, if they will be done to her satisfaction, etc...

As a seamstress who fits an average of 25 clients a week, I can tell you to ask questions if you have concerns, realize that the fitter is there to help you and enjoy all the aspects of this incredible time in your life!

Budget Wedding: Cutting Costs on Bridesmaids

Unless you are one of the few brides fortunate enough to be dealing with an unlimited budget, you have been faced with the dilemma so familiar to us all: where to cut costs and where to splurge? This question has created a great deal of undue stress on every couple attempting to plan their perfect day without taking having to bury themselves underneath a mountain of debt. One area of the budget in which it has proven simple to cut costs without detracting from the elegance and style of the wedding lies within the bridal party—the bridesmaids.

One obvious expense involved in the female attendants is their attire. This can easily be lessened, however, by one simple phenomenon that occurs without fail every year: prom season! Picking a bridesmaid gown from the plethora of choices you will find in many stores in the months approaching April can save you around $100-$200. These dresses are every bit as formal and beautiful as bridesmaids’ gowns found in your local bridal shops, only priced to fit within high school budgets! Stores such as Sears, JC Penney, Maurices, and many others offer a wide variety of gowns at very low prices. Even better, wait until after prom, when the aforementioned gowns go on clearance at these stores. It is possible to find a $139 prom gown for under $50 at this time of year. If your bridesmaids are purchasing their own gowns, they will appreciate the savings as well—their investment into your wedding is an all too often overlooked aspect.

Accessories for the bridal party are also found discounted at this time of year. Everything from jewelry to gloves and hair ornaments can be found at a wide variety of stores, including your run-of-the-mill department stores. Doing a little research to find these deals will prove worthwhile in the end. Keep in mind that all of these items are going to be priced low enough for a high schooler to afford.

As for the bouquets that your bridesmaids will carry, these too can be simplified greatly. They are not to be as elaborate as yours, after all, and the simpler you make theirs, the more elegant yours will look in contrast. This can cut costs on yours as well, because even a minimal bridal bouquet can be made to look lavish next to even more basic bridesmaids’. Try to use flowers that are in season (they need not be the same used in yours, only complement them), and use few of them. Even a single, long-stemmed rose can make a dramatic statement. Having your bridesmaids carry a solitary bloom with a ribbon wrapped up the stem can look just as striking as something more complicated and expensive.

A final thought on cutting back involves the bridesmaids’ gifts. Instead of getting them each a generic engraved compact, look for things specifically suited to their tastes. If one of your bridesmaids loves big band music, look in antique shops and secondhand stores, or even on e-Bay, for an old record of Benny Goodman’s or Glenn Miller’s. If one of them loves dogs, get her a book full of photographs of them from your local bookstore or online. Pay close attention to any collections or hobbies they may have; perhaps you could add to them. These gifts will have more meaning to the bridesmaids, and will more than likely save you money in the long run.

In a world where money is often tighter than we’d like, it is important to know where to find bargains. When looking at where to cut back on budget, keep in mind that the bridesmaids’ portion of budget can be narrowed without cheapening the overall look and effect of your wedding.

FAQs on Tuxedos

Unless your fiancé happens to be a professional opera singer, he has probably only worn a tuxedo once or twice before. With all the attention given to the perfect bridal gown, the groom’s attire is often overlooked until the last moment. We are here to help you understand his choices in tuxedos so he can feel as handsome and special as he is!


What tuxedo shop should we use?


Recommendations from friends are always the best way to go. You can also call around to compare prices, but it is important that you go to the store before making your decision. All tuxedos are not created equal, and of course you want his to be high quality, which you can only judge by looking at one of the designer being considered. You also want to visit the store to evaluate how professional they seem, and if you are confident they will make him look his best.


When should he pick out his tuxedo?

You should reserve tuxedos between three and six months before the wedding. This will allow you to be sure that you can get all the right sizes, and that the styles are current!


What should he bring with him when he goes to pick out the tuxedo?

He will need a bridesmaids’ dress swatch to choose a matching cummerbund or vest for the groomsmen. He should also have a swatch of your dress to match the shirt color – especially if you are wearing ivory instead of white.


Can he pick a tuxedo from a catalog?

Catalogs are great for getting ideas, but the final decision should be made only after trying on a tuxedo. It is difficult to get a sense of quality and fit otherwise!


Should we rent shoes?

Some tuxedo shops include shoes in the rental cost, which of course makes the decision easier. If budget permits, all men should rent the same shoes as well in order to complete the look. Tuxedo shoes are quite different in appearance from men’s typical dress shoes, and will create a much more formal look.


Who should wear a tuxedo to the wedding?

At a minimum, the groom and groomsmen. Depending on the formality of the wedding it is also common for the fathers and ring bearer to wear tuxedos. If grandfathers will be in attendance, asking them to wear tuxedos is a wonderful way to make them feel special!


Some of the groomsmen live out of town. How will they be able to get tuxedos?

Ask them to visit a local tuxedo or suit shop to get their measurements from a professional. Do not let his girlfriend do the measuring unless she is a tailor! No matter how great the tuxedo you pick out is - it will not look good unless it fits. He will need an accurate jacket size and length, and waist measurement. For the shirt, neck size and sleeve length are required. A final fitting will be done when he arrives for the wedding, but if the measurements were way off there is little that can be done.


What will it cost?

Prices range significantly based on the designer – you could pay from around $40 to $200 for a rental. Make sure you ask if there are additional charges for insurance, or dry cleaning. You will often need to pay extra if you chose a full back vest or need to rent shoes.


Should we expect a discount for the wedding party?

Most tuxedo shops will give a discount if you will be renting six or more tuxedos. Often this discount is a free rental for the groom. Be sure to ask the shop when making your decision.


What should he expect when picking up the tuxedos?

All of the men should go to the shop to pick up the tuxedos. They must try them on before leaving. Have someone you trust go with them to make sure that they fit well. A tailor should be on the premises to do last minute adjustments to ensure they fit perfectly. Also, confirm that all accessories match and are included with each suit.

A Perfect Fit For Bridesmaids

Bridesmaids will usually be several sizes apart and it can be difficult finding garments that will look good on their different body frames. Concentrate on the cut of the dress first. Will it look good on all of the attendants? A simple, basic cut generally looks good on everyone. Does it come in the colors that you want to use for your wedding? If not, you can work around this by doing one or more of the following:


1. Have the maid of honor’s dress made of your favorite color and buy the other dresses in an available, contrasting color.


2. Use your favorite color to accessorize your wedding and to bring out your color focus. Hair combs, hates, gloves, shoes, ribbons, and flowers can act as vivid accents. In many art forms, it is the accents that make the statement memorable.


3. Have all your dresses made. Some brides simply buy a pattern and material for each bridesmaid’s dress and send it off to be them to be made by a seamstress that is located near where they live. The main thing here is to be certain there is a qualified seamstress doing the construction in each case. A good seamstress can create a dress in a relatively short period of time. Be sure to specify the finished length of the dress so they will all look similar in length for your wedding photos. Having them all hemmed eight inches off the floor in stocking feet easily does this. This method will create a tea-length hemline. Using the same size heel will make the hemlines even for your pictures.


4. Find a dress that is available in both solid and print materials. This will give more versatility for outfitting different body frames and let you mix and match according to what looks best on each person. Printed dresses let you draw out one of several colors that can be used for matching solid colored dresses. Some companies are now producing a few dress styles for bridesmaids that come in both solid and print material for this reason.


5. You could even go with diversity and have the bridesmaids where different but similar style dresses. They could be in different shades of your wedding colors, giving you a colorful ray to accent the theme/colors of the wedding. Make sure to set some guidelines for the girls to follow when choosing a dress.


These suggestions should help you when it comes to getting the dresses for the bridesmaids, and maybe even lower some of the stress usually accompanied with this task.

Tuxedo Basics

Confused by tuxedos? Wondering what the difference is between black tie and white tie? Read on for some tuxedo basics.


Tuxedo Vocabulary


Here are a few definitions that will help make you more comfortable with tuxedos.


Notch Lapel - Like the name implies, there is a notch cut out of the lapel. Most single breasted suits have notch lapels.


Peak lapel - This lapel is wider and comes to a peak. Most double breasted suits have peak lapels.


Shawl Lapel - This lapel is not split and has a rounded shape.


Single Breasted - This coat has one row of buttons.


Double breasted - This coat overlaps and has two rows of buttons.


Cummerbund - This is a pleated sash worn around the waist. The pleats should always be worn facing up. (In the past, the pleats were used to hold the theater tickets.)


Wing-Tip Formal Shirt - Traditional formal shirt with short triangle collar.


Lay-Down Formal Shirt - Collar is like a regular dress shirt with pleated front.


What style of Tuxedo to Use


This is going to be based on the degree of formality of your wedding. If you are having an informal wedding, you might even want to skip the tuxedo and just go with suits instead. The most popular tuxedo is the single-breasted, one button, notch lapel, black tuxedo. This style is probably the closest to a regular suit if your man doesn't enjoy dressing up. If your man is a fashionable dresser, you might consider different styles and colors of tuxedos. When choosing the tuxedos, consider the style of dress the bride will be wearing. The more formal the dress, the more formal the men's attire should be.


Black Tie vs. White Tie


These are two phrases that are frequently heard with formal events. A White Tie event is a very formal event. Proper attire for a White Tie function is white shirt, white vest, white tie, black tailcoat, black trousers with satin stripe and black patent shoes. Full Dress is another name for White Tie.


A Black Tie event is also formal, but not as formal as a White Tie event. Proper attire for a Black Tie event can be a tuxedo or tailcoat with white shirt, vest or cummerbund, black tie or tie matching the cummerbund, and black patent shoes.


Tuxedo Tips


The following suggestions will help you keep the men's formalwear from adding stress to your planning process.


Choose your tuxedos in person. Just like bridal gowns, tuxedos look different in person. That vest that is the perfect shade of blue in a catalog might not look nearly as perfect in the store. Trying on different styles of tuxedos will ensure you pick the one that is most flattering on your husband-to-be and his attendants.


Have your measurements taken by a professional. Giving your tuxedo shop sloppy measurements ensures you will need alterations. Furthermore, you run the risk of the shop not having the correct size for you. There is nothing more uncomfortable than wearing an article of clothing that is slightly too tight.


Measurements should be given to your shop at least a month to six weeks in advance. This gives the shop plenty of time to gather the correct sizes for your wedding party.


Give serious consideration to renting the formal shoes. Shoes do help complete the picture. This also helps maintain consistency between the groom and his attendants. If you choose not to have everyone rent shoes provide guidelines to the male attendants so there is no misunderstanding about shoe style or color.


Many tuxedo shops also have websites and allow you to return your measurements via the web. This is a nice option if you have groomsmen spread all around the country. The downside to this is you won't know if the groomsman has turned in his measurements without calling the groomsman or the shop.


Check your garments when you pick them up. Ensure that you have all the right accessories that go with your outfit. You are strongly encouraged to try on the tuxedo before you leave the shop to ensure you have the right fit.


Arrange to have someone return all the tuxedos after the wedding. You and your husband will be too busy getting ready to go on your honeymoon to have to worry about whether all the tuxedos were returned.

Preserving and Caring for your Wedding Gown

Your wedding gown is a sight to behold: long and flowing, trimmed in lace, a vision of glowing white satin. Glowing, that is, except for the red stain that Uncle Fred made when he spilled a glass of wine on you at the reception! Or maybe your lovely gown is stain free, but it’s terribly dirty on the hem and the train. What to do?


First of all, don’t panic. Your dress can be carefully cleaned and preserved, and most stains will come out under the expert touch of a professional cleaner. Look around for the most reputable cleaner you can find. Don’t try and clean your gown yourself, or simply hang it in the closet unprotected. Talk with other brides, and find a store that specializes in wedding gown cleaning. Or check with someone at the store where you purchased your dress. They might do cleaning there or be able to suggest a good place that does. Remember, when it comes to your treasured wedding dress, you will want to splurge as much as possible on a reliable dry cleaner! Prices vary from store to store, but a full treatment (cleaning, and preserving box) can cost anywhere from $85.00 and up.


Dry cleaners recommend that you get your gown (along with all accessories such as your veil and crinoline) to a shop as soon as possible after the wedding. Six months is the general time limit for waiting to get your dress cleaned. Most stains will not “set in” so badly that they cannot be removed before the six months is up. Also keep in mind that some stains (such as white wine) may not be easily noticed right after the wedding, but will become more visible as time goes by.


Once you have picked the best dry cleaner you can find, carefully go over your gown in the store with a professional. Point out any tears, dirt, stains or holes that you can find. Discuss the method the store will use to clean and preserve your dress. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and make sure you understand the process.


It usually takes a reliable cleaner anywhere from two to six weeks to have your gown prepared for you. If you request a special preserving box (a very good idea!) it may take a bit longer. Be prepared to wait if you bring your gown to a cleaner during the store’s busy season, such as around a holiday or a month that is popular for weddings, such as June. If you have not heard from anyone at the cleaners after the date that they have told you to expect it, call the store and make sure there are no delays.


Once you have your gown back, follow any instructions that the store may give to you for storing it. Do not open your preserving box since most stores refuse to take back a dress that has been removed from the box. Keep the box in a climate controlled environment. Avoid attics and garages, or putting the box in newspaper or mothballs. If your gown is not in a box, keep it away from extreme temperatures and light. Put the dress in a good cover, and hang it up! Do not let it lay flat. Check your dress once or twice a year to make sure no yellowing has occurred. If you follow these tips, your gown will last for generations! Maybe your own daughter will want to wear it when she gets married.

Second Thoughts About Your Wedding Dress?

Your wedding dress. Besides choosing the man whose eyes will glow with happiness when he sees you in it on your wedding day, this will undoubtedly be the second most important decision of your wedding. Your dress is a personal statement about who you are. Whether it is simple; historical; trendy; princessy; funky; Jackie O; or “Oh my, that is different!” your dress is a bold statement about the woman you are.


You may believe that once you have finally found bought your dress, the hardest part is done, however, if you are like most brides, it’s not. Even after the dress has been bought, you will most likely wonder if you made the right choice. If this happens, do not panic! It is a normal reaction.


In a poll of 45 brides I conducted on the wedding board, the majority had second thoughts about their wedding dress. Of the brides surveyed, 52% said after they purchased their dress they doubted their choice, but ultimately stuck with it. Only 22% of brides surveyed said they never doubted their original decision!

These numbers show that dress jitters are indeed normal. The jitters are usually compounded if you continue to look at bridal magazines after you buy your dress. Remember, dresses look completely different on your body then in a magazine. Although it is difficult, try not to look at other dresses after you have made your decision. If you do look at other dresses, do so only for fun and try not to compare them to yours. And, make sure you look at enough dresses before you make your decision that you will not have that nagging question, “Did I try on enough dresses or is my dream dress still out there?”

While most brides question their dress, but ultimately stick with it, 18% question and toss it. Before you take that leap, make sure you are not making a rash decision. Think through why you want a different dress, make a pro and con list about getting a different dress, and do not let other people influence your decision. I cannot stress enough that choosing your wedding gown must be your decision alone—if it is not, you will probably end up in the minority of brides who end up buying a second dress.


I was in this category and the reason was simple—I did not listen to myself. When I did my original dress hunting, I brought along my mothers, sisters, and best friend. Every time I came out of the dressing room I based my feeling about the dress I had on by the look on their faces! This ended up confusing me and I settled on a dress that the majority of my loved ones liked, but I just felt “so so” about. I never had that magical feeling that the dress I bought was my dress. I did not even believe that such a feeling existed – but it does!


When you find your dress you will feel it—a lot like love, it is hard to articulate, but the feeling exists. You may get butterflies in your stomach or just an overwhelming calm that indeed this dress was made for you! I read about the feeling in posts from other brides and knew I was missing something, because I never felt it. After spending quite a bit of time thinking about my decision and actually getting sick over it, I went dress hunting again—alone. When I finally saw my dress and put it on, I had this amazing feeling other brides described. I bought the dress on the spot. Sure, after I bought my second dress I had a doubt every once in a while like, “Is a tulle dress really appropriate for an outdoor reception?” but I knew in my heart this was the dress for me because I didn’t care what the answers to my questions were. And that is the key.


If you are having serious doubts about your dress—to the extent you cannot sleep, are have nightmares about it, or feel sick to your stomach when you think about wearing it—I highly suggest you go out alone to try on dresses alone. If you just occasionally question whether you made the right choice—you most likely did.


Good luck and remember, second thoughts are normal when it comes to your dress! When it comes to your future husband, that’s a whole different story!

Bridal Gown Attire, Frequently Asked Questions

1. What are the advantages to having your dress custom made instead of buying one ready made?

One advantage to having your wedding gown made is that you can design a dress that fits your personality, figure type, and taste. You can choose neckline, sleeve, skirt, and embellishments that will comprise the dress of your dreams. Also, if you have special fitting challenges, they can all be dealt with before your dress is made rather than after construction. Alterations are often quite intensive and costly when you are dealing with a dress that has lace and beading.


2.How can I know what style is best for my body type?


TIPS FOR SELECTING FLATTERING STYLES


Slenderize - Lengthen vertical lines Look for styles with pressed pleats, vertical tucks, button front closings, v-necklines and princess seams.


Broaden - Shorten vertical lines. Look for styles with yokes, wide waistbands, extended shoulders, boat necklines, dropped waists, or empire waists.


Balance - The plus or minus of your figure. If bottom is broader choose styles with detail that broaden your top and vice versa.


Minimize - Large areas. Choose styles with virtually no details in the area you want to minimize (ex. large bust - no pockets or ruffles on front)


Accent - attractive figure areas. Choose styles with detailing in those areas. (ex. trim hips - sarong draping or hip yoke)


Reveal - figure shaping. Choose styles with traditional close fit. (ex. darts and contour shaping)


Conceal - figure shaping. Choose styles with relaxed fit which emphasizes the flow of fabric rather than figure underneath.


Streamline - fitting your body. Choose styles with seams or other details in areas needing adjustments. The more seams, darts, pleats, or gathers in a figure area, the more opportunities to correct the fit without extensive changes to the pattern pieces.


3. What are the best types of fabric to choose for my wedding dress?

Once you have focused in on a style that you like, it is time to decide on a fabric. If you are creating a family heirloom you may want to consider silk. This luxurious fabric looks elegant and is comfortable to wear because it is a natural fiber. Silk is available in a selection of weaves that will give your gown a rich look that no other fabric does. There is duppioni with its heavier slubs and luminous iridescent shine, shantung with its smaller slubs and subtle drape and silk satin with its lustrous smooth finish. Silk organza and chiffon are available for those who want some sheerness to bodice, sleeves, or as an overlay of a skirt. One thing to remember with silk is you will never achieve a stark white appearance to your dress, as silk always has a creamy appearance.

If you are creating medium cost gown but still want a fabric that is durable and one that will not wrinkle as easily, you may want to consider polyester fabrics. Peau de soie gives you a deep lustrous shine similar to silk satin. Satin will give your dress a high gloss shine. Satin-backed shantung will give your dress the elegant look of silk shantung without the expense. If you are on a budget you may want to consider acetate satin or taffeta for the base of you dress. Acetate wrinkles easier and is less forgiving in the construction process than the other fibers, but it is very affordable. The embellishments you choose for your gown are as numerous as your imagination. Alencon , Venice, Chantilly, Ribbon, or Guipure laces are available. Pearls, sequins, and rhinestones all add sparkle to the gown of your dreams. The possibilities are endless.


4. Tell me more about the fabrics used in Bridal Wear?


Fabrics can be differentiated by their most distinguishable characteristics, which can include:

A. Weave - a smooth or textural quality

B. Weight - heavy to light

C. Luminous Qualities - high-luster (shiny) to deluster (dull)

D. Thickness - one-ply (thin) to six-ply (thick)

E. Translucency - opaque, sheer, or transparent

F. Pattern - Woven or embossed


DEFINITIONS:


I. Silhouette - outline, the shape of the garment. A soft silhouette requires a soft, drapeable fabric, a stiffer silhouette requires a crisper fabric.

II. Hand - the way the fabric feels and drapes. This is a subjective judgment - the fabric must be felt and folded to see if it is appropriate for the design.

III. Warp - warp threads run parallel to the selvage forming the length of the fabric.

IV. Weft - filling threads running crosswise in the fabric - interlacing with the warp threads.



WEAVES AND FIBERS:

All fabrics have two names: the fiber and the weave. The first, fiber, is the actual thread from which the fabric is made. (ex. silk, cotton, nylon, polyester, acetate, etc.). The weave refers to the construction of the fabric; the number of warp threads over which the weft (filling) threads pass before going under. The most common in bridal fabrics are:

I. Plain Weave - the filling thread passes over and under one warp thread in alternating rows.

II. Satin Weave - produces a very smooth surfaced fabric. The filling threads pass under several warp threads - usually 4 to 5 - before passing over one warp thread. When made in cotton this fabric is called sateen.

III. Jacquard Weave - fabrics with a woven design using a jacquard attachment on the loom. Brocade is a heavier luxurious fabric made on a jacquard loom. Damask is a medium to heavy cotton or linen fabric made on a jacquard loom.


5. What are length of trains available?


Trains - a Sweeping train drapes from the waist. A Watteau train drapes from the shoulders. The longer the train the more formal the look.


A. Royal - extending 3 yards from waist

B. Cathedral - extending 2 1/2 yards from waist

C. Chapel - Extending 1 2/3 yards from waist

D. Court - extends 1 foot on floor

E. Sweep - token amount of fabric extending on floor


6. If I choose a long train, how can I deal with it during the reception?

The train can be sewn directly onto the gown or detachable. It can be Bustled to raise it up to floor length to keep it out of the way during the reception. Bustling involves bunching the fabric at waist level with hooks, snaps, buttons, or ribbon loops to form a flower like burst and allowing the remainder to drape. Over Bustling involves pulling the train up to the outside of the dress. Under Bustling involves pulling the train up to the inside at the waist.


7. What type of headpieces should I consider to wear at my wedding?


1. Headbands - narrow, medium, or wide strips that follow the head's arc.

2. Wreaths /Garlands /Circlets - circles placed either at back of head, flat on the crown, or how across the forehead

3. Sprays - resembles branchlets, twigs or flowers

4. Mantillas - Lace or netting that frames the face, raised by a wire armature and secured with an elaborate comb or pin.

5. Tiaras - crown-like curves sitting on the head (diadem) or above the brow (coronet)


8. What are the common lengths of bridal veils?


1. Facial /Madonna /Blusher/ Shoulder Length Veil - This type is not usually used alone, but is combined with other lengths. It is normally used for semi-formal and formal weddings.

2. Elbow Length Veil - This style is used with short or informal gowns.

3. Fingertip Length Veil - Touching the finger tips this type of veil is used for semi-formal and formal weddings.

4. Ballet / Waltz Length Veil - This veil falls to the knees and is usually used in a formal wedding.

5. Sweep Length Veil - This type of veil skims the ground and is also worn in a formal setting.

6. Chapel Length Veil - This style usually lays on the floor approximately 1 1/2 feet and is usually combined with shorter layers. It is worn in semi-formal and formal weddings.

7. Cathedral Length Veil - This is only used for formal weddings with gowns that also have cathedral length trains. One foot or more of the veil is to extend on the floor just past the end of the train.

8. Extended Cathedral /Royal Length Veil - This Veil again worn with the same style dress, extends approximately 5 feet on the floor just past the edge of the train.



9.What types of edgings can I choose for my veil?


1. Raw edge - unfinished and unadorned - the tulle can be cut to the desired size and left unfinished. Tulle will not ravel.

2. Marrow-edge /Rolled edge - a narrow 3 thread cover stitch that delicately outlines the edge of veil

3. Rat Tail Piping - A small satin cord stitched to the edge of veil

4. Lace Border - A narrow lace trim is used to edge the veil

5. Satin or Grosgrain Ribbon

6. Pearls - small joined pearls are stitched around the edge of veil

7. Satin Binding - A bias cut strip is sewn around edge of veil.


10.How do I choose a Dressmaker

Your special occasion is a time of careful planning. Part of that planning is finding a dressmaker that you are comfortable with - one that can help you created the image you are looking for. When you decide you are going to have your dresses custom made, start talking to every one you know.

Check your local fabric stores to see if they maintain a list of qualified seamstresses. Ask your friends and acquaintances for recommendations. Check with a trusted dry cleaner. Or local alteration or tailoring shops. Your wedding is too important to just pick a name from the yellow pages. You will want to find someone who is empathetic to your dreams. Someone who you are able to communicate with, and who will listen to what it is you want but is honest enough to share her opinions (not in a pushy way) as to whether what you have in mind will work in a way that will be pleasing to you in the end.

Whatever source you choose, there are some steps you can employ to ensure that the person you hire will be able to accomplish what you want.

How to Choose a Dressmaker

Your special occasion is a time of careful planning. Part of that planning is finding a dressmaker that you are comfortable with - one that can help you created the image you are looking for. When you decide you are going to have your dresses custom made, start talking to every one you know.

Check your local fabric stores to see if they maintain a list of qualified seamstresses. Ask your friends and acquaintances for recommendations. Check with a trusted dry cleaner. Or local alteration or tailoring shops. Your wedding is too important to just pick a name from the yellow pages. You will want to find someone who is empathetic to your dreams. Someone who you are able to communicate with, and who will listen to what it is you want but is honest enough to share her opinions (not in a pushy way) as to whether what you have in mind will work in a way that will be pleasing to you in the end.


Whatever source you choose, there are some steps you can employ to ensure that the person you hire will be able to accomplish what you want.



WHAT TO TAKE TO YOUR INITIAL INTERVIEW:


1] Your time schedule

2] Pictures of the dress or the pattern you've selected

3] Number of Bridesmaids, their approximate sizes, and body types

4] A small sample of the fabric, if you've already chosen it.



WHAT TO ASK THE SEAMSTRESS:


1) Her time schedule

2) Can she create a custom design or does she prefer to use a pattern

3) To see samples of her work

4) References

5) Estimate of costs

6) What she expects you to supply - most seamstresses will ask you to pick up all the notions and etc.

7) Her suggestions on compatibility of your fabric and pattern,

8) Is the style you've chosen suited to your body type?

9) Will the dress be comfortable to wear or will you have restricted movement?

(This could be important if you are planning to dance at your reception. )

Mother-of-the-Bride Dress Trends

“The message from today’s MOB is that style is an attitude that is not defined by age.” She’s beautiful, she’s smart, she’s dynamic, she looks younger than ever before and this wedding is one of the most special days of her life. She’s today’s mother-of-the-bride. Her daughter will be in the spotlight as the bride, but make no mistake about it; mom is also a major focus on this special occasion as she serves as the informal hostess, mingling with family and friends throughout the day.

What the mother-of-the-bride (MOB) will wear is no small decision for her. Many wedding ceremonies begin only after she is escorted down the aisle to her seat, whereupon the bridal party and the bride follow soon after. This season she can celebrate the spotlight with the smart fashion choices available to her. She is a seasoned person and most importantly a modern woman, and she wants her fashions to reflect that. The message from today’s MOB is that style is an attitude that is not defined by age. The best looks for this year “break out” of the traditional MOB category to offer fashions that are in up-to-the-minute color, silhouette and styling. Listed below are season highlights:

Suited for the Occasion -- Jacket dressing, two separate pieces, and mock two-piece looks stand out for MOB’s. They translate well for a variety of figure types and are an “easy” choice for the wedding (and any other appropriate special occasion).

They offer the versatility of two separate looks, as the jacket can be worn during the ceremony and taken off for the reception. When Mom does take the jacket off, look for this season’s floor length dresses to reveal modified bare looks.

There are two basic takes on the jackets that are worn over coordinating long slim dresses. They are either classic cut in length and softly tailored at the waist, or shorter to the hip. Another two-piece option that emerges is metallic cardigans worn over coordinating satin shimmer dresses, which can also be worn tied over the shoulders.

Bare Options -- Styles may be different for jackets, but the trend of bare styling is consistent for the dresses that are pared with them or for dress silhouettes sold separately. Bare for moms translate into wearable sleeveless, short sleeve or tank styles.

However, don’t rule out spaghetti straps for the moms who want to show off well-toned arms or spotlight shoulders. A must-have for baring looks is a lightweight shoulder wrap (often times sold with a dress). It all comes down to which style better suits the mother-of-the-bride’s individuality and celebrates her confidence.

Color Choices -- Today’s modern MOB has a variety of color options. She can choose to coordinate with the groom’s mother, or the bridal party, or she can select a color that enables her own personal style to stand out. If the bride has chosen rum pink as her accent color, Mom can complete the color story tonally with a dress in the champagne and gold family. Look for a color relationship between MOB and bridesmaids’ fashions. Both have fresh spring options of periwinkle, lilac and sage. Shades of gray, marcasite, silver and platinum are newsy and a directional option to black. All colors get a new feel with the metallic and iridescent fabrications.

It’s the details and carefully placed touches of embellishment that can make all the difference on simple silhouettes and give color and fabric newness. For fabrics, it’s all about shimmer. Watch for metallic and iridescent treatments. The placement of beading and sequins on cuffs, collars and bodices help transform simple styles into sensational. Also, embroideries, which are so important in wedding gowns, show up on MOB fashions.