Monday, April 28, 2008

Ask the Newlyweds: To Have Pets or Not To?

You're loving newlywed life. You've settled into your new home, discussed whether you'd like to have children (and the possible time frame for trying to conceive), and you're handling finances just fine. Then one day, one of you decides to get a family pet. Is it a good idea? Here are a few factors to consider before becoming fur-moms and dads:

* Do both of you enjoy the company of animals? Owning a pet, much like having a child, takes a lot of energy, responsibility and love. If either one of you does not have his or her heart set on becoming pet owners, sooner or later you may run into problems, even resentment towards the pet or each other. First and foremost, be sure you are both comfortable with the idea of sharing your new home with an animal.

* Can you agree on the type of pet you'll have? Some people prefer dogs, while others are self-proclaimed cat people. Make sure both of you will be okay with whatever pet you decide on. Take into consideration any allergies, traumatic experiences or other memories and opinions (good or bad) you and your spouse may have of different pets.

* Can you afford to have a pet? Household animals require financial and physical support. Before buying a pet, be sure to calculate how much its maintenance will cost, including food, toys, visits to the vet, shots, etc. Also, talk to pet store owners about your living circumstances before deciding on what kind of pet to own. If you live in a small rented apartment, a large dog may not be the best choice for you. Be sure to give your new family member enough space and the opportunity to remain active.

* Are you prepared to give your animal emotional and mental support? Much like children, most pets require constant emotional and mental support from their fur-moms and dads. Be sure you'll have enough time and energy to teach your pet valuable lessons, play with your pet, and generally spend time with your new friend as much as possible. This can be an emotionally draining and exhausting process, although most owners will tell you that your pet's loyalty and friendship is well worth all the time in the world.

* Have you discussed who will handle certain tasks with your spouse? Small tasks such as feeding your dog or cleaning out your cat's litter box may seem trivial before you actually own your pet, but soon may become burdensome. Before you get a pet, be sure to set clear rules as to the various responsibilities that come with pet ownership. That way, there will be no confusion, fighting or resentment regarding the performance of these duties. Also discuss any "off-limits" areas: any rooms in which your pet will not be allowed in, any activities in which they must not participate, etc.

Owning a pet together can be a valuable and wonderful experience for newlyweds. Before you jump into pet ownership, make sure you have covered your ground. After all, a well-cared-for pet is a happy pet, and happy pets make for happy newlywed owners!

-- Ursula

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