Congratulations, you popped the question with the perfect ring in hand! She's wearing the diamond and a big grin, and you are wearing a look of relief. Soon, she will become the planning monster--wedding brochures, catalogs, and magazines will cover every table and counter space she owns. "But hey," you think, "This is her thing, there's not much I need to do." Sorry, there is actually plenty for you to do, and she will love you all the more if you take the initiative to do these simple things.
Pick your men. The first thing you need to do is choose your best man and your groomsmen. Usually, your bestman is the guy who has been there for you through thick and thin. He may be your brother, your best friend from college, or even your dad, but whoever you pick, remember he is going to be your life-line throughout the wedding planning and on the big day. The best man usually plans and orchestrates your bachelor party, helps you get dressed,keeps you sain the day of the wedding, lets the other groomsmen know what is going on at all times, holds the rings, gives your payment to the officiant, and offers a toast and speech to the bride andgroom at the reception. The groomsmen often serve as ushers at the wedding, but they are also your emotional support (just like your future wife's bridesmaids). It is up to you how many groomsmen you have--a general rule of thumb is one per fifty guests, especially if your groomsmen will serve as ushers. Keep in mind the formality of your wedding as well as how many bridesmaids your fiance will have.
If you thought you would get to pickout absolutely nothing for wedding, then here's a great news. You are responsible for chosing your's and your groomsmen's attire. Here again, formality is the key word. Everyone needs to match in formality of attire. It is your groomsmen's responsiblity to pay for the rental or purchase of his attire.
As the groom, you want to be sure that the people you hold dear and near are invited to the wedding and reception. In order for this to occur, you need to compile your side of the guest list. Always start with a larger group of people and then shorten the list as needed with your bride to fit the budget of your wedding.
Along with your bride, you should select your wedding bands. Some people prefer to have matching or similar bands, and others pick individual bands to meet their own tastes. Either way is perfectly acceptable. Men's bands have come a long way from the traditional yellow gold, plainband. Now there are bands in yellow gold, platinum, white gold, two-toned, fancy engravings, comfort fits, and diamond settings. Some people like to engrave the inside of their bands with initials, the wedding or engagement date, or a personal saying. This is a nice touch and a very personal way to hold your loved one close each day.
You are also responsible for making an appointment to obtain the marriage license and arranging blood tests if your state requires them. If you and your bride are not leaving the night of your reception for the honeymoon, you need to make sleeping arrangements.
Finally, as the groom you have the honor of arranging the transportation from the wedding to the reception and leaving the reception. You can choose a limo, a horse and carriage, a vintage car, your own car, a rented dream car, or even an old fashioned trolley. If you want to include the members of your party in the going-away fun, be sure to rent a vehicle large enough to hold everyone comfortably. Whatever you choose, be sure you book this at least three months before the wedding. Be you receive a contract stating cost per hour, length of service, and what the driver will wear.
Other things you may want to help the bride decide on are the type of music or DJ you will employ for the reception and ceremony, what kind of food you will serve, and where you will go on your honeymoon.
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