Get your Fiance involved in wedding planning!

Today, men all over the world are rolling their eyes at china patterns and invitation samples that their future brides are gushing over. They seem to want nothing to do with planning! Are you having trouble getting your FH involved in planning the wedding? Here are some helpful hints on how to get your man to help!


Ask him


Be direct and ask him right away what he would and wouldn’t like to be a part of during the wedding planning. This way you know what he would like an opinion on and what he would like you to handle. You won’t end up bombarding him with a bunch of decisions he’d rather leave up to you. If he says he’d rather not help at all, offer some suggestions of what you would like his opinion on. Tell him this is “our” wedding, not “my” wedding. Planning can be stressful and requires a lot of time and effort. It is definitely not a one-person job.


Think like he does


Many men do not pay attention to detail. They don’t notice the difference between light green and celedon like women do! (They may not even know what celedon is!) Have them help out with the big picture—choosing the church and reception hall, or auditioning bands and D.J.’s. When you start to ask him about every detail, that’s when he may start to get edgy and want to leave everything in your hands.


Also, take him along to register for gifts! He may not care what color scheme you choose for your bathroom, but he will enjoy scanning everything with his new “gun”. (Trust me! It worked for me!)


Don’t ask what you don’t want to know


If you have already decided between roses and tulips, don’t ask for his opinion. It is probably not a big deal to him, but it may be to you. If he chooses the option you don’t want, you may be asking for an unnecessary argument. He was probably just guessing anyway! He will wonder why you even bothered to ask in the first place if you already knew what you wanted. Go with your decision. He trusts your judgement!


Use your bridesmaids, mother, etc.


If you absolutely need an opinion on whether to choose mashed or scalloped, call you mother, or a bridesmaid to help you decide. There are more of them so you can alternate your questions to them. They are probably more than willing to help, and can relate to you on the importance of your decision—especially if they have planned their own wedding!


Remember this


Try to recognize if he is stressed out about wedding talk and try to lighten up for a day or two. He just wants to marry you and spend his life with you. He may not understand everything about weddings like you do, but he does understand the purpose and that is most important!